Do ask, Do tell!

Note: This is an older post that has been reprinted because it's worth repeating.

Okay, I'm just an ordinary mother of a gay son and a lesbian daughter. Does that make me different? What does society expect of me? Am I supposed disappear into the background knowing my children will never be able to marry--accept it?
When someone would ask if my kids were married, I used to answer, "No, they're both gay." End of conversation.
What had I said? What ideological void had I trapped myself within? I was actually admitting that they could never marry.
Now, I've changed. No longer will I disappear into the leper colony of silence set aside for mothers of gays. My new dialogue goes like this when asked the marriage question: "No, but they should be. They're both in committed same-sex relationships, so, when gay marriage is inevitably approved, they will have the choice to marry. I dearly love my children and their partners. They deserve the right to marry. I deserve to see it happen."
So you see, we ordinary moms with gay children have to change our personal dialogue and encourage others to realize the important human right of same-sex marriage. When it finally happens, maybe someday people will forget what all the fuss was all about, and we can be proud moms with married children.