Who cares?

When Portia DeRossi told her mother she was gay, her mom said she accepted her, but that she should keep it private. That wasn't the right answer, of course. But sometimes as parents we really don't say the right thing when our child tells us he/she is gay. DeRossi said her mother should have just said, "Who cares," and let her be her true self. "Living in fear is all in your head," said Ricky Martin after finally coming out as a gay man.
Usually, the last to know, we parents haven't experienced the agonizing transition that our children have in coming out--and we have to adjust.  I just wish we could be the first to know instead of the last. We care so much for our children that we should be able to help them come out of the closet--come out with them. We need to openly present ourselves as proud parents of gay children. Then maybe all of the anti-gay stuff would dissipate.
In parenting 101, we should be aware of the possibility of having a gay child and be open and aware and not give our children mixed messages or stereotypical expectations. Whether we have a gay child or not, we need to teach acceptance, then maybe the anti-gay discrimination wouldn't exist.
Maybe then the attitude would become, "Who cares."