Are you one of those mothers who isn't comfortable with other people knowing you are the parent of a gay or lesbian? Not acknowledging your child's homosexuality hurts your son or daughter more than you know. So why not talk about it?
When you tell someone your son is gay or your daughter is lesbian, it's not a confession!
It's our "New Normal" moms.
Are you the mom who bragged about your child's school, grades, athletic ability, artistic talent or musical skill? So, why did you become so quiet when you found out that same child was gay or lesbian?????? Were your expectations altered? Are you still getting over what other people might think? There is no cookie-cutter child or storybook family. We all have to adjust.
I live in the "New Normal" openly now.
Maybe if our public attitude about our children is as positive and honest as our private attitude, we can help to create a stronger perception toward equality for gays in every aspect of society--including same-sex marriage.
And the more we talk about it, the more "normal" it becomes. The bonus is a better relationship with your son/daughter and his/her partner. And isn't that what it's all about?
I wouldn't trade my "New Normal" for anything.
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I just stumbled upon this blog today and have been reading some of it. You are an amazing person, and I bet your children ADORE you. Most parents who have gay/lesbian children ignore it, pretend it doesn't exist. But not you! You embrace it and love your children despite their sexual preference. Kids have trouble coming out to their parents because they're afraid of getting rejected, getting judged, etc. If there were more parents out there like you life for gays and lesbians would be a whole hell of a lot easier. I want to say thank you to you.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your comment. When I first started this blog, it was intended just to be a forum for mothers to promote gay marriage, but I have found that they have a personal hurdle of acceptance to achieve before they can join in openly supporting gay marriage. From what I hear from gay children, they feel exactly the way you do, and we have to help parents get over it. It's a proces. I certainly wasn't expecting both of my children to be gay, so I had to do some work to do myself. The amazing thing that I see in their relationships--the partners they chose are perfect for them. I see their upbringing in those choices and see how full and happy their lives are now. Okay, you gave me an idea about looking beyond the same-sex aspect and seeing how these couples match up on so many levels. Thanks, I'll work on that idea for the blog.
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