Wednesday, May 19, 2010

See your children for who they really are

Moms, take a good look at your gay child and his/her partner. What do you see? Push aside your fragile position on the same-sex part of the relationship and look again at the individuals.
You may see something wonderful there. As a couple, do their personalities blend and complement one another? Are they lively, happy, laughing--having fun together. Do they share the same talents and gifts--the same idealogies and intelects? Do they have a sense of the future together? Gee, maybe they chose someone who represents the idealogies and expectations of your family and their upbringing. Enjoy that. Respect it. That's what matters.
They're not some dirty little secret to be held tightly in your gut.
They are part of your family. Have they had to create a family within a community where they are accepted? That's not fair. You're doing them--and yourself--an injustice.
Is that why so many gays have to run away to San Francicso--or places where they can start a life in a community where they don't face ridicule or unacceptance?
Well, I guess we really can't change anything outwardly to improve the rights of gays until we change what's going on within. Once we see our children for who they really are and are proud of their relationships and their accomplishments, then maybe the rest of society will open their eyes, too.

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